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SAD TIMES or Why I’ve Fallen of the Face of the (Blogging) Earth

July8

Okay, so I was never the most regular of bloggers and I was way behind in 2013, just giving you my monthly reading summaries.
It was July when I posted “Books Read in May”.
It was October before I posted “Books Read in June”.
But I was this close to posting July’s books in November – and truly, really, catching up before the year-end.

And then my mother died. Very suddenly, very unexpectedly. If you’ve lost your mom, you know what a life-changing event this is. It’s like losing the solid ground you’re standing on. And , for good or for bad, we will all go through it.

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To add to my unmooring, I became responsible for sorting through Mom’s things, a task that took five months half a continent away from my husband, my friends, and my home.

And while I was gone, we lost both of our dogs. One, to old age: an expected ‘put-to-rest’, but the other to an agonizing death due to a cancerous tumour on his spleen that burst at the worst possible time to obtain veterinary help.

Thus, I’ve reeled through the past seven months. And, it may seem, I’ve fallen off the face of the earth.

It’s very possible that no one out there cares, but I’ve come to rely on my blog as my personal record of books read. So for my benefit, if for NO one else’s, I’ll be posting throughout the next few weeks to at least catch up last year’s reading record.

It’s part of rebuilding the ground under my feet.

19 Comments to

“SAD TIMES or Why I’ve Fallen of the Face of the (Blogging) Earth”

  1. On July 9th, 2014 at 12:05 am Lisa Says:

    I am so sorry for your losses. I also lost my mom – three years ago now, which seems impossible. I know exactly what you mean, about losing the solid ground. And the loss of a loved pet is always so difficult – and then when you weren’t there.

    I’ll look forward to hearing what you’ve been reading. I hope that books have provided some solace, or at least distraction.

  2. On July 9th, 2014 at 1:13 pm Debbie Says:

    I’m sorry about your mom, Lisa. I know what you mean about the time passing – it seems like just yesterday I could pick up the phone and hear her voice. As you’ll see as I post, at first I couldn’t even read a book because I couldn’t concentrate enough.

  3. On July 9th, 2014 at 4:34 am Whispering Gums Says:

    I was so pleased to see you pop up in my inbox — but I’m so so sorry to hear your news. A sudden death is particularly hard to come to terms with, as I know only too well (though it was my sister, many years ago, not my mother who is still here). I am preparing myself for my mother as she is now 85 but I know that in one sense you can never prepare yourself for such a loss.

    And, how sad to lose your dogs around the same time.

    Take care of yourself …

  4. On July 9th, 2014 at 1:15 pm Debbie Says:

    Sue, how nice to know I’m welcome in your inbox 🙂 I’m sorry that you had to deal with a sudden death as well, but even when you expect it, you’re never prepared. I hope your mom has many healthy years yet.

  5. On July 9th, 2014 at 6:41 am heavenali Says:

    Oh I am so sorry you have had such a nightmare time. Real life is so much more important than blogging.

    Take care of yourself

  6. On July 9th, 2014 at 1:17 pm Debbie Says:

    Thank you for understanding, Ali. I’m finding that part of taking care of myself is finding my old routines – hence, the “books read” summaries. 😉

  7. On July 9th, 2014 at 7:07 am Mary Okeke Reviews Says:

    Debbie, I am so sorry about what you and your family are going through at this moment of your life. My heart goes out to all of you. Please, take your time and put things in order, we will always come back whenever you return. And thanks for sharing with us.

  8. On July 9th, 2014 at 1:18 pm Debbie Says:

    Mary, thank you so much for your heartfelt thoughts, and for your promise to be there when I get going again. <3

  9. On July 9th, 2014 at 2:08 pm Leslie Says:

    I was happy to see you back in my inbox this morning, but so sorry to hear that all these bad things hit you at once. I can relate to it’s never easy. I don’t know what’s worse, sudden loss or a long illness, which is what I am going through with my mom. I hope that day by day things get better and you adjust to what I refer to as “the new normal”.

  10. On July 9th, 2014 at 2:29 pm Debbie Says:

    I don’t know what’s worse, either, Leslie. It must be very hard watching your mom struggle; my heart goes out to you.

  11. On July 9th, 2014 at 5:59 pm Judith / Leeswammes Says:

    So sad to hear about your losses! But glad to see you back. Hope you’re here to stay again.

  12. On July 9th, 2014 at 6:49 pm Debbie Says:

    Thank you, Judith. My plan is to stay the course. 😉

  13. On July 10th, 2014 at 12:23 pm Vasilly Says:

    I’m so sorry about your losses. That’s so much to take so suddenly. Take your time coming back to blogging. We’ll be here. I am glad to see you’re posting again. 🙂

  14. On July 10th, 2014 at 1:38 pm Debbie Says:

    Thank you for your kind words and warm welcome, Vasilly. It was a little overwhelming but I’m glad to be back.

  15. On July 10th, 2014 at 2:11 pm JoAnn @ Lakeside Musing Says:

    Debbie, I’m very sorry to hear about your recent losses… that is so much to deal with in a short period of time. Go easy on yourself as you ease back into blogging. I’m happy you’re back!

  16. On July 10th, 2014 at 5:17 pm Debbie Says:

    Thank you, JoAnn – I’m happy to be back!

  17. On July 11th, 2014 at 3:35 pm Kinna Says:

    So sorry for your losses. Take it easy; grief changes us and it demands patience. Good to see you back. I just got back to blogging myself.

  18. On November 23rd, 2015 at 1:23 pm Nan Says:

    I don’t know if you’ll see this, but I am so very sorry about all you have been through. Too much sadness.

  19. On November 23rd, 2015 at 1:41 pm Debbie Says:

    Thank you, Nan. Things are looking better now, but it was a harrowing few months.

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